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Hazelwood and Churchill (Victoria, Australia) local Girl Guide information noticeboard.

Manners and mannerisms


The not having or having different manners and etiquette habits causes confusion in any meeting and eating place.  This is not to say that any one method is better than the next.  What follows are the norms that are taught through the Hazelwood and Churchill Guide District.  That was everyone will come to understand what is to be expected and begin to adapt to those standards expected when at meetings, in public or representing the District of Region to International events. Also when everyone in the District has the same way of doing some things [traditions] then moving from one unit to another, or from the Youth into the Gipp’s Guides, even as a parent into the District Team or Leadership barriers of being unsure of what to do in a given situation are easily forged.

With this in mind let me share with you some of the things we do.

As a Hostess

  • Meet and great the Guests and visitors.
  • Ask the visitors to sign the guest book/ visitors book [ names needed for a variety of reasons – emergency assembles and re-invitations to other events being two].  Note all there sign in and out for Occupational Health and Safety reasons.
  • Where possible have a bit of information on the Guests  / Visitors background interests, work, service. As a small question with reguard to easing them into a welcoming group environment.
  • Do not pri or be nosy.
  • Listen, ask a small question, be patient with other person when they are answering you query.
  • Introduce one person to another with similar interests. Wait there for a small space of time and may be offer a conversation starter… [Name of person 1] ‘how are the lettuces growing this year’.  Person 2 who grows rabbits may be very interested in persons 1 lettuces but is it not better to introduce lettuce growing conversation to another lettuce grower? NOTE Person 1 raising rabbits may not be happy talking to [person 2 whose dog or ferret eats rabbits!  If this is the case start their conversation of with how well the roses smell this year.
  • It is considered bad form to have a guest inindated with people
  • Stear away from closed subjects i.e. wanting to know personal things about what ever.
  • When your guest is plesently conversing with another person move onto another guest or person who is not in conversation.
  • The Hostesses role is welcome, greet and keep the conversations going.  So the Hostess will be on the look out for people standing back and not for some reason participating.  There may be a very good reason for non participation.  The reason may be as simple as needing to know where the bathroom / toilet is or they have a spider phobia and theres a spider on the wall.
  • After the event or when the guest must leave the Hostess is there at the door thanking the Guest / visitors for coming.  Gently reminding them that the next time we meet they are welcome to come again to.
  • Before the week is out after the activity /event the Hostess has made sure that special Guests have been posted a personal  thank you letter.
  • All sub-committee members and general visitors receive a acknowledgement of their attendance and help.

Meeting and Greeting:

  • We use the Left Hand of Friendship for shaking hands with people.  The Left Handshake is common the World over for people who are currently or have been in either the Boy Scout or the W.A.G.G.G.S. [World Organisation of Girl Guides and Girl Scouts] Organisations .
  • We offer a smile to the recipient of our greeting.
  • In most of Australia people glance into the other persons eyes upon greeting and communicating with them.  This shows trust and respect.  Looking too long though is considered intrusive while  looking away is taken as bad manners.

Circular Discussions

  • When in the circle of conversation [ Brownie Guides called this the Pow Wow circle] conversation flows to the Left.
  • Unless other wise indicated by the Leader of the conversation everyone ways for the speaking turn. Thus, upthrust hands waving urgently in the air and pained expressions on the face tend to be ignored [toilet needs exempt].
  • If there is nothing you want to say… or you cannot immediately remember what is was, you are given time [five counts by the Leader] to sort thoughts and begin to voice your suggestion or opinion.
  • The wasting of time and other mucking around that draws attention to one person [herself] is counted out  and everyone moves onto what the next Guide has to express.
  • Once the circle of conversational input is complete the it is up to the Leader to either left the conversation go around again or ask individuals in a random order.
  • Random order lefts the Guides have only one more say on the topic.

At the Table

  • The Leader then sums up the topic of conversation for all the Guides to hear.
  • When preparing to eat the food is placed on the table with the left hand.
  • Grace is ‘said’ before the food is touched.
  • Grace may be said/ sung / acted for all by the Leader or the Leader may allocate someone else the responsiblity.
  • The Grace said will not offend anyone of other cultures who is sitting at the table.
  • Should you not want to participate in the Grace you may observe silently, or to bow one’s head.
  • No one begins eating until the Leader in Charge  / hostess if away from meeting  is seated and has taken the first bite.
  • Items on the table get passed to the left which is why there is more than one butter dish, jug of water,salt and pepper or tomato sauce container.
  • At the table empty plates / cups/cutlery  are gathers up from a Guides right side.
  • When sitting arrangement have people sitting on the ground / floor then when the Guide is  finished with the plates the plates / cup / cutlery is placed from our right around our back and onto the Ground.  This allows for ease of removal by the meal waitresses.
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